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New York Times BestsellerThe only self help book you ll ever need, from a psychiatrist and his comedy writer daughter, who will help you put aside your unrealistic wishes, stop trying to change things you can t change, and do the best with what you can control the first steps to managing all of life s impossible problems.Here is the cut to the chase therapy session you v New York Times BestsellerThe only self help book you ll ever need, from a psychiatrist and his comedy writer daughter, who will help you put aside your unrealistic wishes, stop trying to change things you can t change, and do the best with what you can control the first steps to managing all of life s impossible problems.Here is the cut to the chase therapy session you ve been looking for Need to stop screwing up Want to become a positive person Do you work with an ass Think you can rescue an addicted person Looking for closure after abuse Have you realized that your parent is an asshole Feel compelled to clear your name Hope to salvage a lost love Want to get a lover to commit Plagued by a bully Afraid of ruining your kid Ready to vent your anger In this brilliantly sensible and funny book, a Harvard educated shrink and his comedy writing daughter reveal that the real f words in life are feelings and fairness While most self help books are about your feelings and fulfilling your wildest dreams, F ck Feelings will show you how to find a new kind of freedom by getting your head out of your ass and yourself onto the right path toward realistic goals and feasible results F ck Feelings is the last self help book you will ever need Get A CopyKindle Store Online StoresAudibleBarnes NobleKoboApple iBooksGoogle PlayAbebooksBook DepositoryIndigoHalf.comAlibrisBetter World BooksIndieBoundLibraries Or buy for Hardcover, 384 pages Published September 1st 2015 by Simon Schuster More Details ISBN 1476789991 ISBN13 9781476789996 Other Editions 9 All Editions Add a New Edition Combine Less Detail edit details Friend Reviews To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up Reader QA To ask other readers questions about F ck Feelings, please sign up

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Lists with This Book Best Titles 80 books 18 voters 31 Amazing Books That Will Actually Motivate You to Do Shit 31 books 2 voters More lists with this book Community Reviews showing 1 30 filter sort default Rating Details 0 copy ratingGraph.clone j rating_details_tip_graph.remove copy.attr id , rating_details_tip_graph copy.find script.remove j rating_details_tip.prepend copy Jan 02, 2016 Rosa, really rated it really liked it review of another edition Recommends it for the voices in your head Recommended to Rosa, really by the voices in my head Shelves nonfic, audio So, maybe about 2 years ago I was complaining explaining to my pill pusher psychiatrist that the bipolar drugs he had me on made me numb No, not numb, worse than numb numb AND depressed Usually when I m depressed I can get something done but on these super awesome drugs I just didn t give a shit I wasn t working I wasn t talking to actual people I only read books and chatted on GR Which is great, you guys have saved me from insanity many times, but making some would be nice as well So, maybe about 2 years ago I was complaining explaining to my pill pusher psychiatrist that the bipolar drugs he had me on made me numb No, not numb, worse than numb numb AND depressed Usually when I m depressed I can get something done but on these super awesome drugs I just didn t give a shit I wasn t working I wasn t talking to actual people I only read books and chatted on GR Which is great, you guys have saved me from insanity many times, but making some would be nice as well I ve got to support this shit life to which I ve become accustomed Ahahahaha Humor ANYWHORE, as I was sucking at explaining myself, the psychiatrist mumbled the dude s a total mumbler that maybe you re just like this As in maybe my normal state of being is depressed And as usual I had no reaction in the moment, but later I was like, um, FUCK YOU.Cuz I don t want to be like this I don t want this to be my normal I want to be NORMAL normal And yeah, I know there is no normal and blah blah blah and everyone s different and I m perfect in my own way and Oprah bullshit but I DON T WANT THIS I want this I want a parasite I want to be allergic to tuna and all I have to do to be normal is never eat tuna again So, I stopped seeing the pill pusher and for the 41st time in my life I stopped taking my drugs BAD MOTHERFUCKING IDEA, DUDE This never goes well for me And yet each time I m convinced it ll be different What can I say, I m a goddamn optimist.Fast forward 8 miserable months and I was back at the pill pushers, communicating clearly that I did not want to be on the drugs he d had me on but I would like to try a nice antidepressant or twelve, please And now here I am, magically cured of all my ills Yeah, no I m still a miserable bastard But in a fun way I m just very slightly less of a miserable bastard than I was before And I still wish I was normal yes, while knowing that no one is and my idea of normal is just a fantasy I guess I just had some sort of epiphany that I ll forget on a regular basis that maybe the pill pusher was right maybe this IS just me That doesn t mean I have to accept sitting on my ass all day, every day actually, who am I kidding, sitting takes too much energy I was laying in bed I still have to push myself But it means that my normal successful day isn t going to look like the CEO s of some company who plays squash every night with her lover Raoul And then plays other things No, my successful is getting out of bed Taking a shower Doing some work Maybe applying some mascara Not being an asshole just because I m depressed Instead I try to be an asshole because I m so good at it Ahahaha Humor again Taking the dog for walks Staying out of jail In fact, every day I m not on MSNBC s Lockup is another day I am WINNING.And that s one of the main points of this book that I m finally getting around to mentioning It addresses many issues people might have depression, addiction, shitty parents, shitty kids, shitty people, shitty jobhonestly it got boring after awhile But I got three lessons from it 1 There is no point in going why, why, why Trying to figure out WHY I m like this What makes me so different or feel like I m so different Was it a childhood event s Was it the back pain meds my mother was taking when she was pregnant with me Probably And I guess it s good to know that bipolarism runs in the family but it doesn t do much for me NOW It s not something I can change or have any control over And also that type of thinking the why why why never ENDS It s just away of avoiding dealing, in my case anyway.2 My brain is fucked up Literally fucked up I cannot control or forget that no matter how much I d like to Depression, bipolar bullshit, ADHD, social anxiety.FUN TIMES FOR ALL But hey, that s okay That s just my shit to deal with in this life, because.3 There is no cure My fucked up brain isn t cancer, it s diabetes It s not a cure or remission or death, it s insulin exercise diet DEALING WITH THIS SHIT EVERY GODDAMN DAY Or NOT dealing with it, which is still a form of dealing with it And a lot of days the idea of that depresses the ever living fuck out of me but then again, so does everything else Ha ha Ha And I turn to my favorite fantasy of finding the magic cure all And that s okay, too That s just me It s all okay.As long as I stay out of jail, that is.3 stars really, but I m gonna up it to 4 because I think this is quite literally the only self help book I ve ever finished And that s just because it was an audiobook and I listened while walking the beastbut whatever It still gets an extra star for that and using the word fuck a lot flag 82 likesLike see review View all 43 comments Sep 25, 2015 Diane rated it liked it Shelves sociology psychology, nonfiction, audiobooks This book with the humorous title was actually quite insightful Basically F uck Feelings is a self help book with a lot of swearing Psychiatrist Michael Bennett and his daughter, Sarah, collaborated on it, which gives practical advice for dealing with our feelings This quote in the introduction explains it well F uck Feelings explains that, in most cases, you have not failed and do not need to try harder or wait longer for improvement to begin instead, you need to accept that life is hard a This book with the humorous title was actually quite insightful Basically F uck Feelings is a self help book with a lot of swearing Psychiatrist Michael Bennett and his daughter, Sarah, collaborated on it, which gives practical advice for dealing with our feelings This quote in the introduction explains it well F uck Feelings explains that, in most cases, you have not failed and do not need to try harder or wait longer for improvement to begin instead, you need to accept that life is hard and your frustrated efforts are a valuable guide to identifying what you can t change about your personality, behavior, spouse, kid, feelings, boss, country, pet, etc the F uck Feelings approach shows you how to become much effective at managing life s impossible problems, instead of vainly and persistently trying to change them If you re willing to accept what you can t change, we have many positive suggestions for improving the way you manage the shit on your plate beginning with not wasting time repeating what hasn t been working.I listened to this on audio during a difficult time, and the advice was useful The chapters have humorous titles like Fuck Self Improvement, Fuck Self Esteem, Fuck Serenity, and my favorite chapter, Fuck Assholes Oh yeah, the chapter on dealing with assholes was especially interesting If you feel like you re surrounded by poop butts, look up Chapter Nine I did profit by reading this, but like most self help books, not everything in it applied to me, and the swearing got a bit old I have recommended this book to a few friends, usually after they ve complained about some asshole Happy reading.Good Quote There s no should or should not when it comes to having feelings They re part of who we are and their origins are beyond our control When we can believe that, we may find it easier to make constructive choices about what to do with those feelings. Mr Fred Rogers flag 57 likesLike see review View all 8 comments Apr 20, 2015 Yodamom rated it really liked it I think I chuckled, on almost every page While this is a serious book it is about not being so serious about everything We whine, moan, obsess and complain so much in our lives, always looking to blame something or someone even ourselves for not living up to the ideal Well, just F8ck it None of us are prefect, none of us are saints, we cary baggage, we snarl and spit, we are truly warped, get over it Work with you inner screwed up beast don t neuter it.Fun, foul language and realistic flag 34 likesLike see review Oct 12, 2015 Bianca rated it it was amazing Shelves non fiction, arc, netgalley, female author, male author I saw this on NetGalley and I had to request it Because F ck Feelings I know, I know, it s a relatively new marketing selling strategy, but it s so up my alley Mary Mary quite contrary and all that And I don t know about you, but at times, I found myself thinking fucking feelings, I wish I didn t have them or something like that Intriguing introduction Buying a self help book is usually the second to last step to surrendering to a crisis of self, the last step being therapy I saw this on NetGalley and I had to request it Because F ck Feelings I know, I know, it s a relatively new marketing selling strategy, but it s so up my alley Mary Mary quite contrary and all that And I don t know about you, but at times, I found myself thinking fucking feelings, I wish I didn t have them or something like that Intriguing introduction Buying a self help book is usually the second to last step to surrendering to a crisis of self, the last step being therapy and the first step being a gym membership, or at least a Zumba DVD or a pamphlet on the Learning Annex What the I kept reading though.I also had a big chuckle when reading that despite of what Oprah and Deepak Chopra might tell you, just because you re prepared to sacrifice whatever is necessary to improve yourself doesn t mean you can do it BANG Just like that, on the first page, the authors are telling you that not only you re a dimwit for buying this book I m only half so, because I got it for free from NetGalley but no matter what you are willing to do to improve, it won t really matter much in the end So, probably because of my somewhat contrary personality, I continued reading Neuroscience seems to show that many emotional and behavioural problems we thought were caused by bad parents or trauma are also caused by wiring that isn t reversible This explains why self improvement is hard and sometimes impossible, even when we re strong willed and well guided In other words, we re often fucked We re often fucked How does one deal with that statement and its perceived meaning Do you feel relieved to hear that things are as they are and there s not much you can do to change them, or just keep at it, trying to improve, better yourself, because surely, there s always potential for better and A dilemma I m in the always improving oneself camp, which can get exhausting I ve read my fair share of self help books, especially when I was young er , but Shock Horror I m still as disorganised as ever, and still haven t learnt the art of saying things in a subtle, diplomatic way But enough about me, you re here to read about the book and what I thought of it There were lots of things I highlighted There were things that didn t interest me that much, such as the chapters on addiction, but that s not to say that they weren t good.What I liked the most was its practical, matter of fact, at times sarcastic but not too much approach to it all I don t care for yadi dadi da, pseudo spiritual, a la the Secret and Depak Chopra bs philosophies, so, yes, F ck Feelings appealed to me a great deal Certain chapters, tidbits were enlightening I loved the F ck Parenthood chapter And F ck Serenity F ck Communication was such a revelation There s also F ck Self Esteem, F ck Fairness, F ck Helpfulness all well presented and argued Other chapters, sub chapters on addiction, therapy, love were very informative and different Ultimately, this book is not teaching you to ignore feelings, but to adjust your expectations, to take a pragmatical approach, to have achievable goals And remember that there s no such thing as fair , feelings are stupid, life is hard and you re going to be relatively okay, even if you won t be happy, because your goals are realistic and your efforts to reach those goals will make you proud Then, the next time life gives you a shit sandwich, slather that puppy in ketchup and enjoy They re on everyone s menu Even at the fine dining halls at Harvard F ck Feelings is the self help book that is the antithesis to every self book and shrink drivel and clich s you ve ever read And I f cking mostly loved it 4.5 stars I ve received this book via NetGalley Many thanks to the publishers, Simon Schuster, for the opportunity to read and review flag 21 likesLike see review View all 16 comments Dec 03, 2015 Kayla Perry rated it did not like it Shelves abandoned I wanted to like this book so bad because the title resonated with me immediately not that that s anything profound because a lot of people probably feel that way and I have had an interest in psychology since a young age I read the introduction to the book and took a chance purchasing it, which I regretted about a quarter of the way through reading it A lot of people who didn t like it have cited similar reasons, such as its redundancy, bleak outlook on life, and unfunny humor I agree that I wanted to like this book so bad because the title resonated with me immediately not that that s anything profound because a lot of people probably feel that way and I have had an interest in psychology since a young age I read the introduction to the book and took a chance purchasing it, which I regretted about a quarter of the way through reading it A lot of people who didn t like it have cited similar reasons, such as its redundancy, bleak outlook on life, and unfunny humor I agree that all three are true though the bleak outlook didn t bother me as much but what made me say fuck this book was actually the way it treated the subject of social work and in smaller part, racism The racism was minor but still unnecessary I forget the exact context, but I m pretty sure it involved the fairness chapter and how the only reason you should say you wanted to get even with someone is if you re a Blood or a Crip but the social work criticism was bullshit.To give too much context to this review, I m currently halfway through a BA for psychology, but very recently decided to switch to a Social Work major for a variety of reasons, none the least of which is its greater emphasis on social justice I don t remember what chapter it was, but there was a sidebar about social work and how parents shouldn t let their kids become one because it will suck all the idealism out of them because they re forced in its paraphrased words to be underpaid and wear bad clothes, having to deal with the dregs of society, such as crazies and selfish assholes like drug addicts There was probably , but I was lazy about getting around to writing this review so that will have to be it.First of all, mental health fields in general, are difficult to work in Second of all, social workers are crucial to this system because of the needs that they meet which are outside of psychotherapy s scope Third, yes, they re underpaid essentially the teachers of the mental health world , but so what I definitely believe they deserve to be paid , but low pay and supposedly terrible clothes are stupid reasons to avoid being a social worker and yes, I get this was a joke but as I mentioned above, this book is painfully unfunny But what pissed me off so much I couldn t continue the book was how disgustingly judgmental the author was by referring to people as crazies please stop being a therapist immediately if you re going to refer to people with mental health issues as pejoratively as that and how he condemned every addict as being a selfish asshole.Can addicts be selfish assholes Sure, but not all of them are all of the time Do they deserve to be treated with compassion in spite of when they are Yes And if you re going to suggest that the people social workers help are somehow inferior to other mental health patients, you re a gross person and should not be in the helping profession.There s nothing edgy about being a dickhead and making fun of people who are already maligned in society, and it seems morally reprehensible to me that the author espouses these viewpoints being in the position that he is.In short, again, fuck this book flag 17 likesLike see review View 2 comments Nov 18, 2015 Geektastic rated it liked it review of another edition Shelves e book, non fiction, science, reference, psychology, reviewed, teach me, comedy, help, 21st century, i did it for the lolz, arc, 2015, pub 2015 I received an ARC of this title from the publisher via NetGalley, in exchange for an honest review Life isn t fair I know this, you know this, but we still keep hoping that somehow the universe will work things out But the universe really couldn t give fewer fucks F ck Feelings is a book about being realistic, about coming to terms with the fact that life isn t fair, and realizing that, in the grand scheme of things, your personal feelings matter very little This sounds pessimistic, and som I received an ARC of this title from the publisher via NetGalley, in exchange for an honest review Life isn t fair I know this, you know this, but we still keep hoping that somehow the universe will work things out But the universe really couldn t give fewer fucks F ck Feelings is a book about being realistic, about coming to terms with the fact that life isn t fair, and realizing that, in the grand scheme of things, your personal feelings matter very little This sounds pessimistic, and sometimes the book does border on a weird nihilism, but it is rather refreshing to read a self help book that doesn t try to shill a bright and shiny message that runs counter to the nature of the world The premise is simple some circumstances simply cannot be changed or improved, so rather than feeling constantly defeated by your inability to alter them, it s better to learn how to deal with the negative feelings on a day to day basis The two really terrible f words in life are fair and feelings, and the reverence we have for them is delusional.If the title didn t tip you off, the book is intended to be both helpful and funny, and overall the writing is genuinely entertaining, while also being legitimately well researched and useful, which is no mean feat There are a lot of notable passages many of which I highlighted , but whether they are genuinely profound or just pleasant but snarky aphorisms is a tough call sometimes The balance between the humorous presentation and the serious subject matter wavers from time to time, with one occasionally overcompensating for the other, but overall it keeps the tone fairly consistent Some of the unevenness likely comes from the dual author set up, in which a comedy writer translates her father s psych and neuroscience findings through her particular Upright Citizen s Brigade filter It does read much better than most pop psychology books, which are generally either dully academic, or way too touchy feely It often fights back against the trend in psychotherapy that believes things can ultimately be fixed, or that feelings can be radically altered, which is refreshing.But I did have a nagging concern that grew the I read when is a personal issue not just personal, but something systemic that really should be addressed, and when is life is unfair just an excuse to let the status quo roll on Unfortunately, the book didn t really answer that question It consistently reminds people to live up to your own personal values while accepting certain unchangeable things, and frankly I don t know what the fuck that really means Often it felt like a cop out If life is unfair, and my personal values are centered around making it just a little fair for other people, isn t the whole deal just counterproductive at that point I don t have an answer, and neither do the authors.One of the other elements I struggled with was the template based structure, which makes it very helpful as a reference guide, but repetitive and dull if you are reading it cover to cover Each chapter is laid out identically, with a breakdown of the issue, what you can and can t change, anonymous real world examples, and a script for dealing with other people or your inner critic The information is helpful, but also a bit truncated And I m pretty sure the script is just there to be funny.As far as self help books go, I would recommend this one to those who like their advice presented in a funny way, as well as injected with some legitimate neuroscience But if you don t want your idealism punctured, this one probably isn t for you Cross posted at BookLikes flag 16 likesLike see review Sep 01, 2015 Ryan Dejonghe rated it really liked it WARNING Naughty language image error Despite the cheerfully bright yellow cover and salaciously curt, morally outskirting title, F CK FEELINGS is a landmark of psychological help With tongue in hopefully cheek mocking of every Dr Firstname Phil, Deepak, Oprah book out there, Dr Bennett and his comedic daughter seek to dispense actually useful advice with wit and practicality To the point this stuff works.Whether feel like an ass, are trying to get a piece of ass, or if you re tired of WARNING Naughty language image error Despite the cheerfully bright yellow cover and salaciously curt, morally outskirting title, F CK FEELINGS is a landmark of psychological help With tongue in hopefully cheek mocking of every Dr Firstname Phil, Deepak, Oprah book out there, Dr Bennett and his comedic daughter seek to dispense actually useful advice with wit and practicality To the point this stuff works.Whether feel like an ass, are trying to get a piece of ass, or if you re tired of living with an ass, the doctor and daughter prescribe an overdose of f ck off to the feelings and cuts to the chase you can t change shit Live with it Deal with it Because we re on the s word one of their favorite idioms is to say not to trust your gut it s full of shit Instead, work it out in your mind, control what you can, make the best of it In this book, the Bennets give the script, provide examples, and bullet point it, too Wow, I m really going to have to edit this review heavily before posting on retail outlets In our world, feelings don t rule, many things can t be changed, and acceptance of limits, not limitless self improvement, is the key to moving forward and dealing effectively with any and all crap that life can throw your way The two Harvard degree Bennet knows his stuff He s ivy league2 educated with three decades of practice He s got a sick sense of humor wouldn t you that his daughter helps convey in print to a wisecracking T.Make no mistake this is not satire or a side splitting laugh at toothless Uncle Joe This is a practical guide, with large portions of humor infused advice that helps you survive an eight hour Thanksgiving engagement with that same toothless Uncle Joe and his insufferable turkey induced flatulence This book also serves as help to kick your kissing cousin Jack Daniels to the curb most of the time and survive most of the goals that motherly Jenny Craig sets in unreasonable expectation It an f you to self help books and an indispensable survival guide to be the best person that we can be Old Army clich mottos, aside.Here s the gist What you can t really control but feel you should straight from the book Income Relationship status How others feel about you Your offspring Ability to refuse the gravitational pull of a party sized bag So while other self help books guarantee the path to happiness, F CK FEELINGS guarantees that said path is nonexistent Instead, assume you re stuck with shit and ask yourself what a good person should do in your situation A good person is not someone who is trying to be happy, because that s not possible, but someone who is trying to do right There, a whole paragraph of selected quotes You get the idea image error Using examples and quotes from Trump to RuPaul never seen them compared before, have you this book will help you raise kids, ward off drugs, stop picking scabs, and tolerate kisses on the hopefully cheek from Aunt Mildred This stuff works because it s practical and achievable For once, stop sharing that smiling preacher s quotes on Facebook and give this book a try F ck those feelings Note in case you haven t picked up on this the book is FULL of naughty, potty talk The grandest curse word of all, the mighty f bomb, literally appears on every page as a heading, with no asterisk Be forewarned Be entertained Be the better person because of it.Oh, and thank you to Simon and Schuster for not telling me to f off and for sending me this book to review You re the best flag 14 likesLike see review View 2 comments Oct 16, 2015 Kirsten rated it liked it Shelves from library, non fiction, mental health, psych and neuroscience, humor, health and wellness The things I loved about this book The down to earth practical advice.The willingness to admit that some people are just assholes, and we have to learn to live with them.The FANTASTIC chart about different therapy options.Things I didn t like so well When I got this from the library, I thought it was of a philosophy of life sort of self help book It s really not, though the main over arching idea is that you can t solve all the world s problems and neither can therapy, which is great T The things I loved about this book The down to earth practical advice.The willingness to admit that some people are just assholes, and we have to learn to live with them.The FANTASTIC chart about different therapy options.Things I didn t like so well When I got this from the library, I thought it was of a philosophy of life sort of self help book It s really not, though the main over arching idea is that you can t solve all the world s problems and neither can therapy, which is great The book itself isn t really a good one to read from cover to cover, though, because it becomes a bit repetitive If the general vibe of the book appeals, I d recommend keeping it around as a reality check for life s little problems.So, it s not a super engaging read What really knocked a star off for me, though, was that there s some fairly not awesome glibness that pops up occasionally The sidebar on dating a Borderline rubbed me the wrong way because of the way it reduces a person with Borderline Personality Disorder to their illness, and because I felt it encouraged armchair diagnosis All of the behaviors discussed could have just as easily slid nicely into the chapter on dealing with assholes, without stigmatizing a diagnosis that s already incredibly stigmatized I also thought the commentary on what causes people to become abusive could have been skipped, for similar reasons.Still, overall this was a nice antidote to self help books that make it seem as though you are capable of solving all the problems, and if you can t, it must be your fault flag 12 likesLike see review View 1 comment Jan 28, 2016 Iving rated it it was ok DNF at 45%I really tried to finish this I wanted to DNF it when I was about 20% but I forced myself to continue This is as far as I could go though My time is too precious to read something I m not feeling.The thing is, this is a self help book, and I don t think this was a good time for me to read a self help book Meaning I m pretty okay with my life right now, so everything the book was telling me, I already knew This is just a bad timing case Maybe someday I ll grab this again, maybe DNF at 45%I really tried to finish this I wanted to DNF it when I was about 20% but I forced myself to continue This is as far as I could go though My time is too precious to read something I m not feeling.The thing is, this is a self help book, and I don t think this was a good time for me to read a self help book Meaning I m pretty okay with my life right now, so everything the book was telling me, I already knew This is just a bad timing case Maybe someday I ll grab this again, maybe not We ll see.Basically the 45% I read was this Life is unfair.Life sucks.Deal with it.Self steem is overrated.Be happy with what you achieve.You are not always in control.Deal with it.That s a pretty realistic view of the world if you ask me Some people might say its pessimistic, but let s be honest A realistic point of view is closer to pessimism than to optimism.Anyways, that s how I have always seen life, so this book is no omg revelation to me Or for anyone flag 12 likesLike see review View 2 comments Sep 03, 2015 Jane rated it really liked it Shelves favorites I only wish I had read this book sooner A must for any overachiever to recognize the limits of what they can achieve in themselves, and importantly, what they can expect in dealing with others Especially in a time when you re made to feel that if you don t have everything you want it s a failure on your part of trying, instead of a fundamental disparity of expectation vs reality Refreshing honesty that would be beneficial to anyone Certainly better late than never flag 10 likesLike see review Sep 19, 2015 Tina rated it it was amazing Shelves adult, non fiction, perfect fives Finally a self help book that s realistic and not full of shit This one accepts that assholes won t change and if you re going to not go bat shit because of them, you need to accept that and move on There are great lists throughout of things you WANT to change, things you CAN change, and how to do it I m seriously recommending this book left right and centre to people right now And really, isn t that title perfect flag 9 likesLike see review Sep 02, 2015 Arajane rated it liked it I m going to pretend I read the whole thing, since I maybe got through about a quarter of it by the time I realized that they were repeating the same thing over and over again I am totally on board with the message, but the idea of reading about 50 iterations of that message was too much for me flag 9 likesLike see review Apr 17, 2015 Jessica rated it it was ok Shelves arc egalley, nonfiction I am a huge, huge proponent of therapy I think 99% of people would benefit from it, though I also tend to agree with Bennett s basic premise that people tend to look at therapy or self help books as a means to solving every problem and achieving something perfect Accepting your own limits is a huge step towards making peace with whatever issues you have But this book is Not funny Repetitive In need of some kind of empirical support And so I did not find it particularly inspiring or mea I am a huge, huge proponent of therapy I think 99% of people would benefit from it, though I also tend to agree with Bennett s basic premise that people tend to look at therapy or self help books as a means to solving every problem and achieving something perfect Accepting your own limits is a huge step towards making peace with whatever issues you have But this book is Not funny Repetitive In need of some kind of empirical support And so I did not find it particularly inspiring or meaningful in anyway I guess that s not what Bennett s really going for, but it means that I didn t find the book particularly helpful, either flag 7 likesLike see review View all 8 comments Nov 24, 2015 Wanda rated it liked it Shelves cbc radio, psychology, read in 2016, public library Life sucks and then you die.But what you do about it in between those two events will make a difference to how you feel about that statement Are you ready for straightforward advice about what you can change and what you can t If so, pick up F ck Feelings and start figuring it out.I expected to enjoy this book far than I did It is written by a psychiatrist father and his stand up comedian daughter and while it definitely has its moments, I found myself skipping large portions of each cha Life sucks and then you die.But what you do about it in between those two events will make a difference to how you feel about that statement Are you ready for straightforward advice about what you can change and what you can t If so, pick up F ck Feelings and start figuring it out.I expected to enjoy this book far than I did It is written by a psychiatrist father and his stand up comedian daughter and while it definitely has its moments, I found myself skipping large portions of each chapter Apparently the regular readers of self help books require generous doses of repetition to drive home even the simplest point I soon found myself by passing their examples, the quick diagnosis sections, and the suggested scripts to make your intentions clear.By and large, I found the advice dispensed to be highly sensible Common sense really, which as several of my friends like to remind me, is not all that common I do find myself thinking about the warning that if brain wiring or brain chemistry are working against you, all the struggle in the world may not get you anywhere In situations like these, it may be best to just find a way to cope with the way you are wired and move along Also sensible you can only be responsible for your own behaviour Trying to control other people is an exercise in futility Decide if the person you are trying to change is someone that you can live with just the way they are or whether you are best off backing away from the relationship If you decide to disengage, back away slowly and quietly, not making a big deal about it In other words, just fade out.Plus, don t ask questions that you don t want the answer to Bugging a quiet person for input is likely to produce information that you didn t want to know Sometimes, silence really is golden.And yes, Assholes exist in the world Just about everybody knows at least one You can t change them either Do the fade out if possible, but if they are a permanent fixture in your life i.e a co worker then you are wise to not engage them in any sort of warfare Ignore them to the best of your ability and do your own work Drama accomplishes nothing.Basically, stuff that I can t believe that people need a psychiatrist to tell them I did appreciate that Dr Bennett did say that therapy is only recommended if you have a specific issue that you want to deal with and only for as long as it takes to deal with it Don t waste your money on messy, nonspecific therapy where you just muck about in the past seeking insights That kind of muddy groping about for that je ne sais quois can actually make you less happy, confused, and can even cause harm.If there is someone in your life who still hasn t figured out the basics of life, this book might be helpful for them unless they re an Asshole, but you know that Not entertaining enough for the rest of us Give it a pass if you re basically happy with your life and aren t really into the self help genre flag 11 likesLike see review View all 15 comments Aug 15, 2016 Carmen rated it did not like it Shelves cynical garbage Ok thats enough of this self centered, enlightened self interested piece of fucking garbage This book, aside from several helpful perspectives on how to avoid being taken advantage of, and how to be focused in addressing your own needs, is a fucking manifesto of cynicism that feels like it was written by donald trump and his minions It essentially attacks any altruism or fairness in humans as delusional If it were possible to give this book a zero i would As i said some useful perspec Ok thats enough of this self centered, enlightened self interested piece of fucking garbage This book, aside from several helpful perspectives on how to avoid being taken advantage of, and how to be focused in addressing your own needs, is a fucking manifesto of cynicism that feels like it was written by donald trump and his minions It essentially attacks any altruism or fairness in humans as delusional If it were possible to give this book a zero i would As i said some useful perspectives on being cautious when addressing your own motivations on helping others Its mantra seems to be people are shit, there is nothing you can do to influence or help anothers life for the good, and if you do it will turn out badly for you The most, according to these authors, you can hope for is to come to terms with your own shitty life and choices and mental illnesses and not expect much from yourself or your fellow man I rarely read self help books and this is why It occurs to me as i write this that maybe the novel, and fiction in general, are the antithesis of self help books Reading about others lives and stories make my world richer, full, and make me cognizant of the good and bad in myself and other human beings flag 5 likesLike see review View 2 comments Oct 10, 2015 Phyllis rated it it was amazing Hands down the best self help book out there, and I have read many My friends ask me if all the self help books actually help I guess not if they can t see the new improved me This book is very different, very funny but rich with insight Yes, the authors do use bad words, not unexpected given the title I absolutely love this book However if you re a fan of The Secret, better skip this, it definitely not for law of attraction fans flag 5 likesLike see review Sep 01, 2015 Amy rated it really liked it Shelves press copy, review, nonfiction, mental illness, local author, entertainment realm review Posted here book review F ck Feelings ENTERTAINMENT REALMhttp entertainmentrealm.com 2015 09It is what it is Don t worry, be happy Go with the flow Life sucks and then you die You can t always get what you want but if you try sometimes you might get what you need Go with the flow Let it go These might be cliches but they re all truisms about how challenging, unpredictable and unfair life can be and that sometimes we need to just accept the bad to be able to save space to embra Posted here book review F ck Feelings ENTERTAINMENT REALMhttp entertainmentrealm.com 2015 09It is what it is Don t worry, be happy Go with the flow Life sucks and then you die You can t always get what you want but if you try sometimes you might get what you need Go with the flow Let it go These might be cliches but they re all truisms about how challenging, unpredictable and unfair life can be and that sometimes we need to just accept the bad to be able to save space to embrace the good F ck Feekings explains that, in most cases, you have not failed and do not need to try harder or wait longer for improvement to begin instead, you need to accept that life is hard and your frustrated efforts are a valuable guide to identifying what you can t change Turns out that emotions are just that Mindfulness is a good thing and you can only tweak and improve yourself and what makes you happy You can t change or j fluency those around you Shit happens and the best you can do is keep your mind and body healthy and sometimes just stay quiet when you don t want to or just go with something as uncomfortable as if might be at the time Through chapters on self improvement, self esteem, fairness, helpfulness, serenity, love, communication, parenthood, assholes and treatment, Dr Michael Bennett and his comedy writer daughter Sarah Bennett approach this topics using honesty, humor and sensible solutions They provide examples They list what you want and can t have, what you can actually aim to achieve and how to get it done Quite useful tips This is the most refreshing and useful self help book I ve read in some time On self improvement Instead of trying to figure out your problem, use your best tools for managing it, be they finding a rehab program, an organizational coach, or a group of girlfriends whose opinions on jerks you trust On self esteem So while it s certainly worthwhile to try to develop your talents and seek fulfillment, it s dangerous to say you should be able to make it happen and thus make yourself responsible for producing a solution you don t control Instead accept the fact that sometimes you can t and won t feel good about yourself That s no reason, however, for stopping yourself from doing good things and writing off your feelings of low self esteem as an unimportant by product of a hard life, perfectionism, or subpar personal equipment on serenity Unfortunately, some people don t recover from loss, even when they get lots of support and work hard to move on It may be that loss triggers an innate vulnerability to depression, their personalities are unusually loss sensitive, or they lack the ability to control destructive impulses Again, it sounds sappy, but not every broken bone or heart is guaranteed to mend on love Again and again, you have to face the fact that someone you love can t love you back, or you can t find someone to love when that s what you want and need Failed love almost always feels like a personal failure If you re extra careful and selective about loving and being loved, you ll probably find yourself spending time feeling lonely on communication Unfortunately, however, many problems do not, in actuality, represent a failure to communicate Rather, they arise from differences in character, culture, or values, and communicating these differences is a bad way to bridge gaps and a good way to cause disagreements Michael Bennett, MD and Sarah Bennett will be at Brookline Booksmith on Tuesday, September 29 at 7pm flag 4 likesLike see review View 1 comment Feb 12, 2016 Holly the Infinite Book Dragon rated it liked it Shelves nonfiction autobiography biography, reading challenge 2016 Remember that there s no such thing as fair, feelings are stupid, life is hard and you re going to be relatively okay, even if you won t be happy, because your goals are realistic and your efforts to reach those goals will make you proud Then, the next time life gives you a shit sandwich, slather that puppy in ketchup and enjoy They re on everyone s menu Even at the fine dining halls at Harvard.I am not a self help book reader However, this caught my eye at the library It could have be Remember that there s no such thing as fair, feelings are stupid, life is hard and you re going to be relatively okay, even if you won t be happy, because your goals are realistic and your efforts to reach those goals will make you proud Then, the next time life gives you a shit sandwich, slather that puppy in ketchup and enjoy They re on everyone s menu Even at the fine dining halls at Harvard.I am not a self help book reader However, this caught my eye at the library It could have been the brightly colored cover or my favorite word splashed in the title throughout the pages It sounded funny yet useful I needed this, after one of my bad anxiety weeks I read this mostly in one sitting after midnight It was such an easy, straightforward read Super funny at times, too However, the formula got tiresome after awhile.I did find some meaningful sections that reminded me that I am doing the best I can with the tools I have acquired over the years, dealing with depression anxiety I especially appreciated the sections on anxiety, childhood abuse, facing fear, parenthood assholes.Your primary goal is not to get rid of negative feelings and feel better, but to block them from controlling your behavior while you continue to act like a decent person Reading challenge A book with a yellow cover flag 4 likesLike see review Nov 24, 2016 Gela rated it it was ok Some basic common sense with a little sexist stereotyping and a revelation of how shrinks really are I think this book confirms my theory that depressed people sometimes become psychologist or study psychology And people love to gossip and talk about others Only thing I agree with is F ck feelings, and well I say love yourself, treat others how you want to be treated and if others treat you bad f ck them Just not literally flag 4 likesLike see review Jun 03, 2015 Edward Sullivan rated it really liked it Shelves adult nonfiction, psychology An anti self help full of good, practical advice delivered with cheeky humor flag 4 likesLike see review View 2 comments Sep 21, 2015 Sally Drake rated it it was amazing review of another edition Hilarious, smart and compassionate with excellent, concrete advice on how to be a decent person or at least try when faced with impossible problems flag 4 likesLike see review Jan 20, 2017 Wendy Bunnell rated it liked it ok, so I picked up this from Audible when they had one of their two books for one credit deals, and it sounded interesting I almost didn t get it because I don t really like swearing, and swearing in the title, well, I won t be typing that in my review I m not a complete prude, but I am in the camp that people swear because they don t have a strong enough vocabulary to say something creative That is why I love Shakespearean insults and other such creative ways to express your negative feeli ok, so I picked up this from Audible when they had one of their two books for one credit deals, and it sounded interesting I almost didn t get it because I don t really like swearing, and swearing in the title, well, I won t be typing that in my review I m not a complete prude, but I am in the camp that people swear because they don t have a strong enough vocabulary to say something creative That is why I love Shakespearean insults and other such creative ways to express your negative feelings about a person or a situation without being ugly One of my favorite parts of Hagseed, the Margaret Attwood retelling of The Tempest, is that the director makes the prisoners actors yes, they are putting on a play in a prison that they can only swear using insults from the play Brilliant Dropping the F Bomb approximately 1 million times during a 12 hour audiobook much less brilliant Even with the name, I was not expecting the frequency of that particular word, and honestly it sounded like I was watching Scarface Good grief Totally distracting to have that tossed about, as I often will have my audiobooks play out loud and not wear headphones while I m getting ready in the morning, but totally couldn t do that with my kids walking around Garbage talk Ok, enough of that rant.The advice itself was pretty sound I liked his approach of breaking into categories, giving examples, and then ending each chapter with 1 this is what you want that is unrealistic, 2 here is the best that you can reasonably expect, and 3 here is what you can say or do to get to that realistic best case scenario This was actually helpful and interesting information I m actually thinking that the paper copy would have been useful than the audiobook in order to increase my ability to flip back through the chapter titles and find particular sections again And shockingly, he wasn t pushing ongoing treatment sessions for talk therapy, even though I think that is his job.In conclusion, I would like to recommend to Mr Bennett to pick up a handy Thesaurus before writing his next book so he can come up with some creative ways to tell people to move along already That ship has sailed You re knocking on the door, but no one is home Your chances are as slim as insert your own pithy colloquialism here It could be fun Creative even Expand your vocabulary If that was the work of Mr Bennett s comedy writer daughter, well, that is a comedy show I m not rushing out to see either It was hard to tell, with two writers, where his personality ended and her input began, but perhaps his next book could be a solo act to better effect flag 3 likesLike see review View 1 comment Jul 10, 2016 Ashkin Ayub rated it liked it Shelves non fiction, humor Do you really have to resolve all of your childhood issues, examine all of your feelings and continue to face all of your demons in order to have a happy, meaningful life No way F ck Feelings is a practical self help guide and the brainchild of Michael I Bennett, M.D a certified psychiatrist and his daughter, Sarah Bennett Yes a comedy writer In it, Duo suggests that the modern techniques for dealing with life s so called impossible problems place unrealistic significance on resolv Do you really have to resolve all of your childhood issues, examine all of your feelings and continue to face all of your demons in order to have a happy, meaningful life No way F ck Feelings is a practical self help guide and the brainchild of Michael I Bennett, M.D a certified psychiatrist and his daughter, Sarah Bennett Yes a comedy writer In it, Duo suggests that the modern techniques for dealing with life s so called impossible problems place unrealistic significance on resolving feelings.We all fall down and mess it up, sometimes often than not There s little we can do control what happens in this life Many things are simply beyond our reach Yet what we can control is how we respond to those things It s not always easy, to be the bigger man, to show grace to others and forgive without holding a grudge But when we begin to see one another, as brothers and sisters, created with purpose and beauty, different, but full of worth just the same, we might start to see that it s worth it to go the extra mile, showing compassion when it s undeserved or even unwanted Because we all deeply need it, whether we know it or not Today don t do what you want to do Do what you need to do Learn Create Engage.Things that make you feel bad aren t within your control, so sharing your feelings won t make you feel better for long If you expect to feel good when you can t, you ll feel worse You feel like someone who s lost his groove and can t get it back.And focusing on your bad feelings makes them important, so you ll forget other important things in your life that might make you feel better in the long run So spending too much time with your feelings is dangerous for your health Dr Lastname advice is, F ck em Goals are not just wishes or feelings they re what you want to do after you deal with the shitty reality, because the alternative of pretending that it will go away is even worse This book will give you honest, useful advice, not to hold you to believe that whatever impossible wishes you cherish will eventually come true Harsh book But if you re ready to accept tough realities, Dr Lastname can suggest you some good, specific things you can do that you didn t think of before flag 3 likesLike see review Apr 11, 2016 Shawn Stone rated it it was amazing Shelves psychology, self improvement There s a certain irony to life that the better off we have it, the bitchy and whiny we tend to be One of the most common traits of first world problems is the righteous feeling of indignation we feel entitled to experience and give voice to via every medium possible.It doesn t help when we live in a culture oriented around the encouraged expression and protective nurturing of people s feelings often to the exclusion of the growth related benefits of experiencing a little bit of life s There s a certain irony to life that the better off we have it, the bitchy and whiny we tend to be One of the most common traits of first world problems is the righteous feeling of indignation we feel entitled to experience and give voice to via every medium possible.It doesn t help when we live in a culture oriented around the encouraged expression and protective nurturing of people s feelings often to the exclusion of the growth related benefits of experiencing a little bit of life s pains could induce This book s big idea encourages the reader to Fuck Feelings that cloud our problem solving skills and instead offers a guide for approaching a variety of common situations from a rational and practical perspective devoid of feelings.Let s face it, our goals and dreams are going to be beset by inevitable challenges, some beyond our control, so we need to know how to reframe problem situations without suppressing our feelings, but not letting them control us either If you ve read Burkeman s The Antidote or Holiday s The Obstacle Is The Way , you ve probably identified this book s obvious connections to StoicismThere s also a healthy blend of Taoism and CBT thrown in to boot However, the strength of this book is that the author builds on these concepts offering some amazingly helpful ways to reduce big problems to their essence in a pragmatic, practical and lighthearted way.Written by a clinical pychiatrist with over 40 years experience, Bennet has done his time in the trenches with plenty of permutations of crazy However, I loved this for it s largely absent sugar coated advice, cliched platitudes and overall entertaining vibe The book doesn t take itself too seriously, and neither should you We re all gonna die eventually anyway, so fuck serious.The book is divided into chapters that allow the reader to dive in at any point of relevance, or it reads equally well for those wanting to browse it cover to cover.Buy or read this if you generally dislike self improvement books for their saccharine sweet sentiments and overall piss poor advice This one s a winner flag 3 likesLike see review Jan 17, 2016 Rob rated it really liked it Shelves non fiction, owned, humor, read 2016, self help Despite its obscene title, this book does actually contain some solid advice Bennett encourages readers to abandon unrealistic wishes or expectations and replace them with sensible goals and understanding For example, the book contains a chart as follows Bad Wish Never drink again, ever Good Goal Never stop working hard to resist delicious alcohol.The above quote, taken from the book s introduction is representative both of the advice contained within the book, as well as the humor empl Despite its obscene title, this book does actually contain some solid advice Bennett encourages readers to abandon unrealistic wishes or expectations and replace them with sensible goals and understanding For example, the book contains a chart as follows Bad Wish Never drink again, ever Good Goal Never stop working hard to resist delicious alcohol.The above quote, taken from the book s introduction is representative both of the advice contained within the book, as well as the humor employed by the author It really can be a funny book at times.Another theme of the book can be summarized by another quote from the book s intro Stop asking why you have weaknesses and start preventing them from turning you into a jerk.Bennett argues it is a waste of time, money, and energy to trace a problem to its root He advocates preparing a plan of action contingent on knowing nothing but what is known now.I appreciated Bennett s insistence on abandoning one s self and seeking to do good, for example, he states, Instead of mourning unfairness, improve your ability to do good in an unfair world Life is unfair, and that s often a fact beyond a person s control, often than not in fact It all seems like common sense, but it can be difficult to remember at times Bennett s blunt, yet oddly articulate given the profanity , advice can be a powerful reminder of the limitations we encounter as individuals That being said, however, Bennett does not obviate responsibility We have a responsibility to ourselves and to our loved ones, but that responsibility must be grounded in reality We must understand that there is no such thing as fair, that feelings can be misleading and should not be the primary barometer or compass for satisfaction Bennett says stupid, but I can t force myself to go that far, even in a review , and that life is hard but that all of that is OK because if our goals are realistic, we can derive a sense of pride from working towards accomplishing those goals flag 3 likesLike see review Sep 21, 2015 Zade rated it really liked it In F ck Feelings, father Michael Bennet, a psychiatrist for over 40 years, and daughter Sarah Bennet, a comedian, team up to write an anti self help book that may actually be useful than a whole shelf of self help bestsellers The basic gist of the book is that life sometimes stinks and reality isn t going to adapt to meet your wishes, wants, or needs Therefore, you d better figure out how you re going to cope and get on with things While this may seem harsh to those accustomed to the t In F ck Feelings, father Michael Bennet, a psychiatrist for over 40 years, and daughter Sarah Bennet, a comedian, team up to write an anti self help book that may actually be useful than a whole shelf of self help bestsellers The basic gist of the book is that life sometimes stinks and reality isn t going to adapt to meet your wishes, wants, or needs Therefore, you d better figure out how you re going to cope and get on with things While this may seem harsh to those accustomed to the touchy feely tomes popular in the last decade, the practicality of their advice makes it far likely to do readers some good than are those other books In fact, the Bennets point out that most of the so called self help books can actually do harm than good because they make it seem like it s your fault when their strategies don t work Trying to follow The Secret and wondering why your life isn t filled with all the good stuff you ve been visualizing Well, life is unfair, but it s not your fault The Bennets present practical, real life advice for dealing with a variety of problems from depression to addiction to nasty relationships They present useable tactics for getting through rough times, including lists of what you wish for vs what you can actually have and templates for hilarious but useful letters to send to yourself or others explaining what the problem is and how you re dealing with it If you ve read Victor Frankl s book, Man s Search for Meaning, consider this one a twenty first century take on his philosophy with lots of swearing The Bennets don t promise you ll be happy, just that you can find ways to cope with the negative feelings you can t control and the s t life throws your way Most of all, they emphasize the importance of doing the right thing and living up to your capabilities and refusing to judge yourself by unrealistic standards Now that s good advice flag 3 likesLike see review Jun 11, 2015 Linda rated it liked it Shelves non fiction I have a complicated relationship with self help books I get reeled in by a catchy title, then spend most of my reading time mocking the concepts Imperfection is the natural state of humanity, and given the infinite variety and magnitude of those imperfections, who in the world thinks that 300 pages of text are going to change anything significantly This book sort of takes that as a given not just about self help books, but about actual therapy By all means, go if it helps, it says, but it s I have a complicated relationship with self help books I get reeled in by a catchy title, then spend most of my reading time mocking the concepts Imperfection is the natural state of humanity, and given the infinite variety and magnitude of those imperfections, who in the world thinks that 300 pages of text are going to change anything significantly This book sort of takes that as a given not just about self help books, but about actual therapy By all means, go if it helps, it says, but it s very expensive, not likely to be covered by insurance for very long, and here s the kicker likely will not fix your problem In fact, fixing the problem is probably impossible, and what you really need to do is learn to live with the problem, and minimize its impact on your daily life.I m a fan of practicality, so that message appeals to me Important note the book isn t focused on seeking treatment for mental illness It s talking about people who have a problem with a spouse, a boss, a child, etc and turn to therapy to find a fix I was particularly enad of the chapter on job problems A run of the mill self help book would be mentioning conferences with your boss, or your boss boss, or the union steward, or trotting off to the EEOC this one says I paraphrase keep your head down, your mouth shut, and do your work to the best of your ability What a concept flag 5 likesLike see review Jun 03, 2016 Therese rated it really liked it Shelves dating and relationships, psychology I liked this and thought it was a useful, accessible read The format is nice in that it s easy to skip around to different chapters depending on your interests I liked how it kind of trains you in a specific way of thinking about emotional problems and suffering through the format of each section discussing different types of problems that typically bring people to see a therapist The authors present a problem situation, then they list what you typically might wish could happen to solve the p I liked this and thought it was a useful, accessible read The format is nice in that it s easy to skip around to different chapters depending on your interests I liked how it kind of trains you in a specific way of thinking about emotional problems and suffering through the format of each section discussing different types of problems that typically bring people to see a therapist The authors present a problem situation, then they list what you typically might wish could happen to solve the problem, then they list what would be realistic and achievable goals that you could work for, and then talk about practical ways you could go about doing it There s a strong emphasis on recognizing and accepting your own limits, as well as the limits of what therapy can help you achieve I think I found just that overall training in how to think useful than some of the specific advice, which truth be told, sometimes seemed a little glib and shallow I kind of wished for depth and extended discussion sometimes, but I think that was also the point of the book, that depth and discussion aren t necessarily going to help, and nor is overthinking and overanalyzing things I m not sure if it would be my top go to recommendation for a universal self help book, but I m glad I read it and it was helpful for me flag 3 likesLike see review Feb 09, 2016 Diane Dachota rated it it was ok I started out thinking I would love this book, which is a no nonsense, tell it like it is book about solving your emotional issues At first I enjoyed the fictional case studies and the idea of what you can and cannot change It is true that people waste a lot of time trying to understand their problems rather than work on solutions.As I moved from chapter to chapter however, it dawned on me that the book was incredibly jaded and seems to take the approach that their if very little, if anything I started out thinking I would love this book, which is a no nonsense, tell it like it is book about solving your emotional issues At first I enjoyed the fictional case studies and the idea of what you can and cannot change It is true that people waste a lot of time trying to understand their problems rather than work on solutions.As I moved from chapter to chapter however, it dawned on me that the book was incredibly jaded and seems to take the approach that their if very little, if anything you can do for yourself to make your life better The fact that the author hired his daughter to inject humor into painful scenarios made the book kind of insulting.At one part of the book he tells people What you wish you had and can t haveand the list includes Having a lover, having a friend, having the ability to do something well, feeling a sense of accomplishment Is he serious What if a young person or teenager was reading that they would never in their life have a friend or lover or accomplish anything He also gives a tongue in cheek review of psychiatric methods and even discusses the pros and cons of lobotomies which is really not that amusing flag 3 likesLike see review Sep 20, 2015 Karenclifford61 rated it really liked it Written by a father daughter team, initially I liked the comic relief but after a while found it a little overused improbable Fortunately there was less of it as the book read on.This wasn t a self help book in the usual sense, but rather one that follows the Serenity Prayer telling you to acknowledge accept your situation and change what you can while recognizing the difference between what is possible and what is not.I also appreciated how in each section there was a quick diagnosis identifyi Written by a father daughter team, initially I liked the comic relief but after a while found it a little overused improbable Fortunately there was less of it as the book read on.This wasn t a self help book in the usual sense, but rather one that follows the Serenity Prayer telling you to acknowledge accept your situation and change what you can while recognizing the difference between what is possible and what is not.I also appreciated how in each section there was a quick diagnosis identifying 4 5 bullets along with a script which identified here s what you wish for and can t have here s what you can aim for and actually achieve here s how you can do it Best of all was the realistic attitude that while it s hard to not try to compare yourself to others, one needs to focus on setting your own standards along with taking pride in ones effort, and confidence in ones abilities to do the right thing while accepting that peace of mind is rare.In other words, the authors focused on acceptance of one s self rather than changing into someone else flag 3 likesLike see review previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 next new topicDiscuss This Book topics posts views last activity 2017 Reading Chal The 1st Book On My List 3 11 Dec 22, 2016 07 41AM First Book 1 2 Dec 21, 2016 05 44PM Read once or refer to it regularly 2 3 Sep 03, 2016 01 43PM More topics Recommend It Stats Recent Status Updates Readers Also Enjoyed.



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Diane

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Yodamom

I think I chuckled, on almost every page While this is a serious book it is about not being so serious about everything We whine, moan, obsess and complain so much in our lives, always looking to blame something or someone even ourselves for not living up to the ideal Well, just F8ck it None of us are prefect, none of us are saints, we cary baggage, we snarl and spit, we are truly warped, get over it Work with you inner screwed up beast don t neuter it.Fun, foul language and realistic

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Bianca

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Kayla Perry

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Ryan Dejonghe

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Kirsten

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F*ck Feelings
Jane

I only wish I had read this book sooner A must for any overachiever to recognize the limits of what they can achieve in themselves, and importantly, what they can expect in dealing with others Especially in a time when you re made to feel that if you don t have everything you want it s a failure on your part of trying, instead of a fundamental disparity of expectation vs reality Refreshing honesty that would be beneficial to anyone Certainly better late than never.

thumbnail Title: F*ck Feelings
Author:Michael Bennett
ISBN :1476789991
ranting: 1.5
Reviewer: 3072 Reviews
Description: New York Times BestsellerThe only self help book you ll ever need, from a psychiatrist and his comedy writer daughter, who will help you put aside your unrealistic wishes, stop trying to cha

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